He was always going to be a disappointment?
I assume you must know Barkley as you say you'd have to know him to know when in the last nine months he decided.. but your own logic precludes that you know that he did decide he wants out (despite you also saying there's no evidence)?
High expectations he was never going to be able to satisfy. We lived a bit vicariously through Ross as a homegrown lad. As a collective, we always thought he could be more than what he was and we held him to a higher standard than others.
I was pointing out that someone would have to know him to have insight into his thinking and when any decisions were made. There was never a suggestion he would leave or wanted out, but everything is consistent with someone running down deal for a move, with or without comment. I think all the evidence suggests the decision was made in the last year, that's my opinion, draw your own conclusions, he could have always dreamed of pretending to leave, then at the last minute signing a new deal. Maybe he wants guarantees on game time, maybe he wants to be a tree.
Koeman's position made explicitly clear that he would be sold, but also showed how keen he was to get him to sign a new contract. If Ross wanted to stay, he's been given enough opportunities, offers and ultimatums to do so. If he didn't have an place he'd rather be and can go, why not demand a release clause. Very few leave a job without a better one to go to and he would have got a huge pay increase to stay.
I can understand people get emotional and don't want to believe what's happening, but both Everton and Spurs have pretty much confirmed negotiations are ongoing. I'm not sure why you'd think he'd have thought for moving for well over a year or him not wanting to move, both seem illogical in circumstances.