I've got to hold my hands up to this one though, to be serious for a sec.
I try to be an ally and all that and I would defend anyone I thought was being bullied or treated unfairly - yet reading this thread makes me think I still have further to go.
There's no hate or judgement in me, but there are words in my vocabulary that I need to recognise are far more damaging and poisonous than I give them credit for.
If I chuck out a 'bender' at a mate, I don't think I'm being a bad person because I know I love my mate. But yeah - a word that doesn't hold any hate from me can still be a hurtful, hateful word to someone else and I'm gonna work more on that.
Toddacelli strongly believes love is love - and I'll try and show it more in the words I choose.
I started this thread thinking it wasn't a big deal. Now I realise what isn't a big deal for me could be real pain for someone else and I don't want to cause any pain.
Must do better.